What is a Nived?
Ghedia families and Hindus around the world would do Nived (a small Havan)
during the Diwali festival. Diwali Nived, depending on the individual’s
family tradition, is normally performed on Kali Chaudas and Diwali.
The most popular day is on Kali Chaudas (the day before the Diwali)
when Nived is offered to Kuldevi.
The ritual on how to perform Nived at home had been traditionally
passed on from parents to children and they in turn pass it to their
children. Families will then follow the same ritual as were taught
by their parents or grand parents.
However today younger generation do ask inquisitive questions and
would like to know the reasons behind doing such Nived. Sometimes
the parents themselves would find it difficult to explain the reasons
as they been following the ritual learnt from their own parents
Origin of Nived
Although Nived is performed for the past many thousand of years,
the origins of rituals are normally lost. The main reason for this
origin being lost is the absence of a written language during the
tribal stage and due to the absence of a written language, ideas
had to be passed on from generation to generation by means of oral
narration. The rituals of Nived vary greatly according to the individual
family’s tradition, so would be best to take advice from your
We worship following deities when we perform Nived:-
Mataji is represented as the benevolent Mother where she is the
personification of eternal peace. Prayers are offered to ‘Maa’ who
is the manifestation of the absolute energy that pervades the universe.
She has the ability to generate life. Hindus believe that the Maa
stands for everything that is everywhere in the universe. Maa as
the Universal Energy is worshipped.
From the canons of Hinduism –
Maa Lakshmi – Goddess for wealth. As Laxmi She is abundance.
Not only material, but of Air, Land, Space etc
Maa Durga – Goddess for Strength. ‘Durga’
sitting on a Lion, she is a manifestation of ‘Shakti’ or the primordial
energy. The power to breathe, walk, digest etc, comes from Ma Durga.
Maa Saraswati – Goddess for knowledge. She is the
‘OM’, from where all sound emanates.
Hindus have always believed in worshipping Mataji. Thus different
forms of the Ultimate Power are revered on different occasions.
You need to check ‘Ancestral Tree’ to understand the
significance of Nived and family lineage. To open the tree Click
Parajiya Ambo. Each family needs to know their Kurdevi, Devta, etc.
to perform Nived. These details is available by following the ancestral
tree – Ambo.
Kurdevi (family deity)
Hindu religion has given thousands of names for Gods and Goddesses.
Each group has its own deity whom they worship. Thus Kurdevi is
generally identified as a family deity playing a vital role within
a community. These deities are worshipped in the temples as well
Parajiya Sonis that includes Parajiya Pattni, Parajiya Girnara and Parajiya
Kutchi Sonis believe and pray to Kurdevis (family deities) like
Momai Mata, Tulja Bhavani, Shikotar, Khodiyar, Hingraj, Wagheswari,
Ambika, Maha Kali, Bhawani, Chamunda, Hans Vahni, Bahucharaji, Ashapura,
Gatrad, Raandal, Jwalamukhi and Vinjan.
Each family has their own kurdevi. Lapsi is offered in the Nived
There are two istdevs – Dariyalal and Swaminarayan – (perceived
as the avtars (reincarnation) of God)
Thus Parajiya Sonis worship 17 Kuldevis and 2 Istdevs. All these
deities’ temples are located in various towns and villages
Hinduism believes in the concept of noble soul or devta. This means
that any individual, through his karma, can be regarded as a noble
soul, worthy of worship by a group of his followers. This has further
resulted in the concept of Kurdevatas where every clan has its own
deity. This is a kind of ancestor worship. Some of the Kurdevtas
in Parajiya Sonis are Dada Jasraj, Vachradada, Kshetrapala, etc.
If your Istdev is Dariyalal, loose ‘Churmu’ is normally
offered in the Nived ritual.
Kshetrapal Nagdevta – protector of the region
is an important deity, which literally means the guard of the region.
There are various legends on the origin of this deity.
The Naag (Serpent) culture was fairly widespread in India before
the Aryan migration, and continues to be an important sect in certain
areas. After coming to India, the Indo-Aryans incorporated the worship
of snakes (Naag) into Hinduism. The festival is especially dedicated
to the Shesh Naag, who comforts the protector of the entire existence,
Another legend speaks of Kaliya, the snake that inhabited the waters
of the River Yamuna, whose venom was so vile that it poisoned the
river and killed the crops and animals in the region. Bhagwan Krishna,
one of Vishnu’s avatars, killed Kaliya and liberated the people.
That is why Naag Panchami has been celebrated ever since. The origin
of snake worship goes back to Ram antiquity. The propitiation of
the serpent god is considered essential to the well-being and prosperity
of the family and Talvat (from sesame seeds) is offered in the Nived
According to the Hindu mythology, in the Srimad Bhagwatam, Goddess
Maa Sati, first consort and devotee of Lord Shiv, immolated herself
in the yagna, holy sacrificial fire, when her father Daksh insulted
her husband Lord Shiv. Kheer (rice soup) and rotli is offered in
the Nived for Sati Mata.
According to the legend, Hingraj Mataji taught us to become jewellers.
Parajiya Soni Community came into being because of Hinraj Mataji.
For further readings on Hingraj Mataji, please refer to our Parajiya
History. We offer Savories like ‘puri’ in the Nived
Lord Hanuman, also called Mahaveera (the great hero) or Pavan-suta
(son of air) or Bajarangbali is a noble hero and great devotee of
Lord Rama. He is a provider of courage, hope, knowledge, intellect
and devotion. He is pictured holding a mace (gada), which is a sign
of bravery. Devotees pray to Hanuman to protect them from material
obstacles in the path of devotional service and engage them in the
service of the Supreme Bhagwan Ram.
According to legend Hanuman was given a very big ‘vada’
made from Urud Daal by His mother on the eve of His departure to
Lanka for the war so Lord Hanuman could eat out of this vada little
by little whenever He felt hungry.
Incidentally, Urud daal, the chief ingredient, is also offered to
appease Rahu, the significator of abnormal fears and snake curse
etc Lord Hanuman is known for his strength and benevolence He provides
his protection to everyone who selects his bhakti. Lord Hanuman
is worshipped with offerings of vada made from udad lentils in the
Our ancestors who died as a valiant warrior trying to save their
villages from bandits, protecting honour of women – mother
and sisters are called Surapara. Their rock memorials as ‘Surapura’
were erected where they fell and died. These memorials of our defenders
and valiant warriors are still existence in India.
These ancestral father-worships (Surapura) are of great importance
to many Hindu communities. Wherever possible, the newly weds symbolic
knot or the wedding knot, ‘cheda-chedi’ which was tied
at the ‘mandap’ during the Hindu wedding ceremony is opened after
doing Nived at their family’s Surapura memorial to take their
ancestral father’s blessings. Rice is offered to our Surapura
in the Nived ritual
‘Nived’ or Offering to a deity has always been a significant part of our
Hindus have favorite Gods and Goddesses or Ishta Devatas, Kurdevis
to whom they call upon to help, guide and protect them and help
them face unexplainable hurdles in life.
A more direct form of ancestor-worship is the ‘Nived’
performed by Hindus during a particular period. Parajiya Sonis worship
and do Nived to such deities.
Dishes for Nived
Ritual description as to what is Required?
1-Lapsi for Kurdevi
2-Kheer (rice soup) and rotli for Sati Mata
3- Rice for Surapura dada
4- Savories (puri) for Hingraj Mataji
5- Sweet Buns (Pudla) for Shikotar Mataji
6- Talvat (from sesame seeds) for Khystrapal Nag Devta
7- Hotchpotch (khichdi) for Khetaliya dada
8- Vada for Hanuman
9- Loose Churmu – for Dariyalal (only for those whose Istdev
As mentioned earlier, this information should be used only as a general
guide. Food for nived varies with each family. Families do not need
to use all the above food for Nived. Each has its own traditions.
So is better to follow each family’s traditional ritual.
Portions for Nived: – In the old days of joint nuclear family when 35-40
family members used to live together under one roof, the portions
of each dish used to be large. Now with the break of such joint
family, the portion of each dish should be prepared according to
the number of family members. One needs to ensure that the dishes
are carefully prepared with love and devotion. The amount of food
should not be prepared in excess amount. As this blessed food is
later retrieved after the nived and consumed so must not be wasted
Ritual of Nived
The heart of every Hindu home is its shrine: the sacred space set
for honouring and worshiping the Gods. The rituals are always meant
to inculcate feelings of devotion and to bring about the divine
orientation of human life.
The Nived that take place in the household shrine are the foundation
of all family actions and decisions. The size and decoration of
a household shrine do not matter. The shrine may be large and impressive,
an entire room or a beautifully designed edifice, or it may be simply
a tiny niche, or even just a row of religious prints pasted on a
The children in the house grow up following family beliefs and are encouraged
to participate in the Nived ceremony as they will find it personally
inspiring. One or more family members on behalf of the whole family
usually perform Nived at the household shrine. During the performance
of the nived, offerings are made to different deities as mentioned
above. The simplest form of nived is the domestic ritual performed
by the householder who would offer simple oblation into the sacred
fire lit in his house and pouring of offerings into them little
bits of the food mentioned above, invoking various gods and deities.
Since this article is just a general guide, many would not be able
to understand the terminology of deities and rituals fully. We hope
to write in detail as we develop this website. Meanwhile please
do follow the ritual with faith and devotion.
A shrine for the nived will normally include following deities: Photograph
of Maa Kurdevi ( If photo of Kurdevi is unavailable then use Ambe
Maa ), Mataji’s Trishul (trident of Shiva), coconut, fruits
and flowers. Prepared food for nived is placed near the shrine.
Ten (some families make nine) morsels of puris are placed in a large
dish. Each morsel consists of a heap of nine (some families keep
seven) puris and one vada on top of each heap. A cup shaped diva
with four corners, made from wheat flour is placed on top of each
heap. Each diva will have wick wet with ghee in each of the four
Coconut milk is extracted in a glass. Seven pieces from the cracked
coconut are placed in front of the Mataji photo and a bit of food
from each prepared dish is placed on top of these coconut pieces
to signify our offerings to the deities. All wicks on the ten morsels
are now lighted. When lighted, there will be ten morsels with four
wicks lit making it a beautiful forty diva arti thali.
Aarti is the beautiful ceremony in which divas flames are offered
to Mataji. Aarti is performed to God, in any manifestation, any
form, by any name. The essence of the aarti ceremony is that all
day long God offers us light – the light of the sun, the light of
life, the light of His (Her) blessings. Aarti is a time when we
say “thank you,” and we offer back the light of our thanks,
the light of our love and the light of our devotion.
We realise that the small diva is nothing compared to the divine
light, which shines on us all day. So, aarti is a ceremony of humility,
a time in which we acknowledge that “God, you are everything.
I am nothing. All day you shine upon the world. All I can offer
you is this small diva, a flame that will be blown out by the passing
wind. But, I offer it with devotion and with love. Please accept
After performing the arti and bowing to Maa, many families also
perform a ritual of going out in the open or in the back garden
and throw four ‘vada’ in each direction. The significance
of this is that it will keep away any domestic or family problems
and bring Peace in the family.
Why do we offer food to the Lord or Deities before eating it?
Hindus make an offering of food to the Mataji, devtas and devis
and later partake of it as prashad – a holy gift from our Lord.
We offer nived(food) to the Kurdevi. What we receive in life as
a result of our actions is really our Ma. We acknowledge this through
the act of offering food to our Kurdevi, Istdev, Pitru Dev(for fathers)
and other deities.
By performing these sacred acts the worshiper creates a relationship
with the divine through his or her emotions and senses. Family members
bow before Mataji, sip coconut water as Prashad, and receive a portion
of cooked food. This food and water are now considered blessed by
Love and joy come to Hindu families who do nived and worship to her and
ooze profound boons, blessings and Ashirvad. With Her kind blessings
the distress, sufferings, misfortunes, miseries and uncalled for
troubles will vanish ever for and the success will become your pleasant
companion at every step of life.
After offering the food thus, it is eaten as prashad – blessed food.
We hope the above information have enlightened you about the significance
The essence of Nived is to maintain the feeling of surrender and dedication
to Mataji and will fill our lives with knowledge, understanding,
devotion and love. The mental calm and tranquillity one experience
after performing Nived is to be experienced to believe it.